THERAPY WITH ERMA

Change starts here.

I help people who are struggling with their relationship(s) and can't stop the cycle of defensiveness, blame, and disconnection between themselves. 

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When my clients come to therapy, they have often tried to work out their conflict for themselves to no avail, leaving them feeling defeated and hopeless. Others come to me because they can see they need support with their communication - or - they genuinely do not understand what has happened to their relationship, or how it got so bad.   

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When they first come in, they don't know how to stop the arguing before it gets out of control, and it's likely a frustrating cycle they have experienced many times before. On the other hand, clients describe how big, important topics tend to get swept under the rug. The topic has become so dusty, just lying under the surface of daily interactions, that they have no clue how to even broach the topic anymore. Clients sometimes ask me if their relationship is salvageable as it feels like any time they try to connect, it ends up in both people feeling hurt, unseen, and misunderstood. 

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They keep finding themselves in a pattern that feels awful and they want to know what they can do to make it different. My clients want to be able to talk openly and honestly about anything with their partner without it always turning into an argument. ​They want to feel heard, they want to feel relief, and frankly, they want to stop feeling like they are living on two different planets, especially with the person they are desperately wanting to connect with.  

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Look - I get it. I know what this feels like, and I can help. 

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The good news is that we are not doomed to repeat the same cycle we are in today. Our brains, our hearts, and our bodies are very capable of change. It's not your fault that no one taught you these invaluable skills on how to operate as a team, but it is now your responsibility to seek change and brave the uncharted territory. Change is absolutely possible!

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I love working with couples because sessions are often dynamic and produce change. I love to see them work to bring playfulness and joy back into their lives. Together, we'll explore patterns, nurture intimacy, and cultivate lasting transformation in your relationship.​​​​​

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You deserve to learn the tools that we didn't get from our previous relationships or families that can loosen the hold of old patterns and leave you with a feeling of calm and hope as we approach your unique couple situation.

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You deserve to love and be loved in return.

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You deserve to feel at peace in your own relationship.